Why is it that our value is measured by how many people want to screw us? 

Why is it measured by whether or not someone does? By whether or not someone finds us attractive? By how attractive someone finds us and where we spend the night?

Why do we find our value in how many people are jealous of us? By how many people want to be around us? By how many people want to have what we have or accomplish what we’ve accomplished?

Why is our value measured by what’s in our bank account? By the kind of car we drive? By the kind of house we live in? By the people we are able to hang out with? 

Can’t success just be yours? Can’t it be good just because it feels good and right to you?

Why do we spend so much time trying to define it? Counting followers on our blogs, posting our success on Facebook to watch the number of ‘likes’ go up and hashtaging our way to “fame” on Instagram like it really makes a difference. 

Why does it suddenly count so much less when everyone else isn’t making a fuss about it? 

Who cares if no one says they’re proud of you? 

When it comes down to it, are you any less successful just because no one stopped to tell you you were? Does an action mean less just because nobody noticed you did it? 

Stop living by what makes the faceless masses happy and learn to live your live by the things that will make YOU proud of you. It all falls into place after that, I promise… but even if it doesn’t, it won’t matter because you will have lived your life in such a way that it was meaningful. 

Who cares what kind of car you drive? Who says it’s a call for pity if you’re not bringing anyone to your bed? Who cares how many publications your name has graced? If it isn’t something you would use to define you (and as we can remember, you work doesn’t have to), then why do you care what anyone has to say or think of it?

Start your day tomorrow remembering that it is not lust, a lie or deeply-rooted insecurities that should make you try your best. Strip it all away and just go for it. 

Stop trying to find your place in a world without any substance and just find you.

Love -Sara






Body Language Cheat Sheet for Writers

As described by Selnick’s article:

Author and doctor of clinical psychology Carolyn Kaufman has released a one-page body language cheat sheet of psychological “tells” (PDF link) fiction writers can use to dress their characters.


There are quite a few I had never thought about ! Interresting !

Gonna have to keep this handy.

Not too shabby.

This is a solid list! For those who’ve ever asked about how to convey proper body language, check this out.

While you’re at it, start observing the people in your daily life to see how this list may compare to the different personality types you know. This could greatly help with aspects of your character development. 

XO -Sara

Source: archetypewriting.com

On a Thursday


image via weheartit

Sometimes I forget how much a simple phone call can mean. 

As I was working today, I got a call from an unknown number. When I answered, it was one of the ladies from my church. I expected it to be for prayer or maybe a question about something in a study or service. 

The call caught me off guard, as she said “I need you to listen carefully to what I am about to say…”

She began to tell me all of the things she appreciates about me. Out of the blue. On a Thursday afternoon.

Her words on certain things could not have been more perfectly timed. Only yesterday I was wondering/feeling a little insecure about some of these things.

It was a moment I will cherish for some time. And even though it turned me into a babbling idiot as I tried to react to these kind words gracefully, it’s reminded me of the power of words and how we can use them to build or destroy.

Speak some encouraging words to the ones you love today and always. Don’t let the opportunity pass you by. Even if it means calling them.

Out of the blue. On a Thursday.

I should like to add, the words you pen could be even more powerful than the words you speak. Consider that as you write today.

Consider how your words on a page could be the very love letter, inspirational quote or note of encouragement the world has been waiting for.

You’re lovely -Sara

Reality Vs. Resolution (Happy New Year!)

Hello loves, 

It is my most sincere hope that you enjoyed your holidays. I can honestly say that this was the most perfect Christmas I have ever experienced. It was a delightful surprise. 

With 2014 coming after us like we stole something, I’m finding a lot of my conversations are taking on a familiar shape. It’s hard to believe I’ve only lived to see 24 Januaries because I swear I’ve heard the “new years resolution” ramblings at least 1,000 times.

(image via Flickr)

I would love to encourage you to be better in the coming year than you’ve been in the last, but can I just be honest with y’all? I hate new years resolutions. Hate, hate, hate them!

They’re not realistic.

They become a competition and you spend too much time comparing yourself to others.

You always fail at them and then just give up. And sure, the cool thing about failing is that you’ve at least tried but for many people, a failed new years resolution is like the one river that’s uncrossable. I mean, these are people who can write novels in a month and get published in their first five years of writing and yet, for some reason, a little new years resolution is just the unforgivable failure.

Granted, I have some lofty goals for the year (what can I say? I’m a dreamer) but I also have a more realistic way of looking at my one-year aspirations.

Here are some reminders I know I’ll need to keep handy as I dream for the coming year. 

  1. Be Yourself. Get cozy with this idea because you will never master a single thing you’re trying to do in your life if it doesn’t fit you. I feel like a lot of people only make new years resolutions because they want to look like they’re trying. That brings me to number two:
  2. Stop Caring What Others Think. How many of your goals are really for you and how many are just to look better to those around you? 
  3. Don’t Put a Time Limit on a Real Dream. I feel like a lot of people mix up a one-year goal and a real dream. For example, this year, I have two stories I want to have published. Will they both get published this year (or at all)? Possibly, but I’m not going to stress myself out if they don’t because there is always next year. Yes, I am determined to do my best there but it is not something that utterly needs to happen in 365 days. Shoot, it could even be five years from now but I’m not going to put a cap on a situation that must happen naturally. Now, there is also a story I am self-publishing. That is a one-year goal I’ve set for myself in 2014 because it is something I have the means to see through at this time in my life. See, it’s great to resolve to take steps towards those goals with literal lists like “Edit My Final Draft”, “Seek a Literary Agent” and even “Seek Publishers”, but to throw “Get my Novel Published Before July or Bust!!!” on the list, I feel like you’re setting yourself up for disappointment… Don’t limit anything you do, not even the time it will take to do it.  
  4. Less Talking, More Doing. Hey guys, did you know my hair is black? I don’t need to talk about it all day or every day because it’s just a fact. So if we don’t spend so much time talking about the real things that make us who we are, why do we make such an obnoxious effort to advertise our resolutions? Just do it. Stop talking, stop begging for others to approve it and just do it. Make a reality, not a resolution. If you’ve resolved to do something different, turn it into your reality. If I wanted to dye my hair purple, that would be something I resolved to make happen. Then I would make it happen because I have the means to do so. It would be a realistic goal I could achieve and feel good about.
  5. Be Thankful. No matter what happens, remember to look at each day for all of the good things that happened, not the bad and without regrets of what could have been.

I’m down to quit these lofty resolutions like “Go to Paris”, “Reach the Bestseller List” or “Walk to Work Everyday” unless you can truly make that happen this year (and if you can, God bless you!) Otherwise, stick to reality. Make your Parisian trip one of your five year goals or plan to walk to work most days or just be happy knowing you’ve found the right agent. This way the goals will be reached naturally, the pressure is off and you’ll skip the post-new-year month of self-loathing failure. Boom. 

(image via Flickr)

Now, let’s go get 2014. Let’s desire to be better this year than we’ve been before. Let’s dare to dream big and keep an open heart about what’s to come.

A new chapter awaits -Sara

P.S. What are some of your goals this year? 

“There is no passion to be found playing small - in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” ―Nelson Mandela ♥

I have always thought it an honor to share a birthday with such a controversial, complicated, passionate figure. July 18th is going to be weird this year without hearing of him, but for the next 20 years and beyond, I hope to remember these words and live them with every capability.
♥ -Sara

“There is no passion to be found playing small - in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” ―Nelson Mandela ♥

I have always thought it an honor to share a birthday with such a controversial, complicated, passionate figure. July 18th is going to be weird this year without hearing of him, but for the next 20 years and beyond, I hope to remember these words and live them with every capability.

♥ -Sara

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